Your face is your value

How many people actually see you? Not follow you, not like a photo, but see you. You got more people in your pocket than any human being who's ever lived, and you've never felt more invisible. It's not a glitch, that's the design. If you're a girl, you've been handed a face and told it's your value, and then you're given a feed built to make sure you never measure up to it.

And if you're a lad, you've been told that control is strength, and that feeling anything is weakness, and then you're left on your own with it. And here's the part that nobody's saying out loud. You're not the customer, you're the product. The insecurity is the business.

The resentment between you is the revenue. The more you hate yourself, the longer you scroll, the more somebody gets paid. You probably already know this, and you're probably already looking for a way out. So I'm not gonna tell you a detox. I'm not gonna sell you a course. I wanna show you something older than any of this. Older than the Internet, older than the country you're sitting in, that says the exact opposite of what that feed says about you. And yeah, it's in a book, and you've been told this book is empty. I know. Give me your time, you know, and then decide.

First, the scale of it, 'cause it isn't just you. You know, WHO reckons one in three women on Earth have been subjected to physical or sexual violence. One in three. You know, that's a whole third of all women on the planet have been subjected to physical or sexual violence, and over the last ten years, a whole culture has grown online that treats that as normal, even as a goal.

You know the names. I'm not gonna spend ten minutes on them. What matters is the pipeline. Researchers in Dublin set up accounts pretending to be teenage boys. Within twenty-three minutes, the feed was pushing them the manosphere content. A few hours in, it was three-quarters of everything they were shown. Nobody searched for it. It was delivered, and it runs both ways.

Girls get the mirror image, the feed that scores their face, the influencers selling submission as a lifestyle and telling them they're worth less at twenty-five. Meta's own leaked research said Instagram makes body image worse for one in three teenage girls. Six in ten American teenage girls now report persistent hopelessness. A boy learns dominance is manhood.

A girl learns to shrink. Put them in a room together, and you get the relationship that follows, and the charities say that the abuse they're seeing now echoes the influencer's script almost word for word. It's toxic because it's a business model. Insecurity sold to girls as beauty, and to boys as being high value, and the resentment between them is what pays for it all. I'm not here to argue with any of that. You probably know that already, and you're living in it.

I'm here because I went looking for what God said about women. Not what church tradition says, not what a preacher told me, but what the text says and the language it was originally written in, and I didn't do it with a few verses.

I went through every woman in the Bible names, two hundred and six of them, every one. I did not expect what I found. If you've been fed either version, the Tate version or the tradwife version, you won't expect it either 'cause it cuts against both. So here's the deal: I'm not gonna ask you to believe anything, not once. I'm not gonna tell you what is in there. The references will be on screen, so you can check every one if you feel for it. What I want you to do is notice whether it makes any sense of what you already feel. If it doesn't, swipe. If it does, ask yourself how a book that old knew.

Start at the very beginning, before there's a single rule, before anything has gone wrong. The first page of the Bible says God made human beings in his own image. It then says in the same breath, male and female. Both. The image of God isn't the man, it's the two of them. And the very next line, God blesses them and hands them the earth to run. Them. Nobody in that sentence is in charge of the other one. Now the line everybody quotes, God says he'll make man a helper.

And you know what's being built on that word, helper? An assistant, a support act. And that didn't sit well with me. So I checked the word. Right, now, I'm not great with Hebrew, but I'll try and pronounce it. So it's ezar. And it turns up 21 times in the Old Testament. So that's the part of the Bible before Jesus turns up.

And the two of those are of women. And you know who it was used for nearly every other time? That word helper, God himself. He said he is our help and our shield. Help comes from the Lord. Same word. Same word for God coming in to rescue of his people who can't manage it on their own. The first woman wasn't made as an assistant.

She was made with the word the Bible uses for God showing up. Does that make any sense of anything? Every girl who's been told to shrink. Every lad who's been told she's beneath him. The oldest line on the subject says the opposite. And they said it first.

So I'm going to run you through about, you know, a few of the women that are detailed in scripture, you know, in the historical records. I'm going to start with a lady called Hagar, you know, the girl in the desert. She's an Egyptian. She's a slave. She's owned by a woman called Sarai, who can't have children and hands her to her husband to get one.

So now she's pregnant by the man who owns her. And the woman who owns her turns on her. So she runs into the desert on a road back to Egypt with nobody looking for her. And scripture says that an angel of the Lord found her by a spring in the wilderness. Now check this. The phrase angel of the Lord comes up hundreds of times in scripture. And this is the very first, the first time it ever appears, not to a king or to a prophet or to anyone that in the world's view would be classed as important, but to a runaway slave girl in the middle of nowhere.

And the first thing this angel says is her name. Then she does something that nobody else in the whole record of scripture ever does. She gives God a name. She says, you are the God who sees. If you're a girl whose whole life has turned into a running score of who's looking at you, hear this. Before anyone else ever looks at you, you were seen by the one who made you. He found Hagar when no one was looking for her. He knew her name. He knows your name.

Connected and unseen. That's where we started. And here's a girl 4,000 years ago who had it worse than many of us. And the first thing that happens to her is that she gets seen. Tell me that doesn't make some sort of sense. People say scripture treats, you know, women as property. So let me tell you what it actually keeps and what it throws away. The king of Egypt orders two midwives to kill every Hebrew baby boy at birth. Just put that into perspective a moment.

One of the most powerful men on earth commands two women to murder hundreds of baby boys. They refuse. They lie to his face. And scripture records their names. Now, I'm not going to try and pronounce their names, but I'll pop them on the screen. The most powerful man on earth gave that order. Scripture doesn't even bother to record his name. He's just the king of Egypt. Two women who said no to him are still being read about.

He isn't. Five sisters lose their father. He had no sons. Under the law at the time, the family's land just vanished. So they walk up and find this guy called Moses, the leader of the nation at the time. And they speak to Moses and to the entire nation and say, why should our father's name disappear because he had no son? And Moses is a good leader.

Had his faults, but a good leader. He doesn't rule on it. He takes it to God. And God says, the daughters of Zelophehad speak what is right. And then Moses changes the law for the whole nation because five women asked. Then there's a woman called Deborah. Scripture says she was judging the Hebrews. Not a judge's wife, not helping. She was doing it. When God sent the general to war, the general says, if you, that being Deborah, come with me, I'll go. If you don't, I won't. The commander of the army wouldn't move without Deborah. Then there's a woman called Sheerah who gets one verse in the whole Bible.

66 books and she gets one scripture. In that verse, she builds three cities. the verb is feminine. She built them. You know? I mean, you've only gotta look at what's there and see that things are not what they seem. And when the lost book of God's law turns up in a temple, the king needed to know if it's real and what God meant by it.

So he sends for a high priest, and the high priest goes to a woman, Huldah. And there were male prophets alive at the time, and some of the considered greatest male prophets, you know, who have got whole books in the Bible. All right? Scripture records their, all of their lives, and they're alive at this time. All right? And the high priest went to a woman to find out what God's word meant, and the scripture tells it like it's the most normal thing in the world. This is not a book that thinks women are property. It's a book that keeps their names when it drops the names of kings, and if you just think that's the Old Testament, that pre-Jesus part, wait till you realize what Jesus does.

If you wanna know what God thinks about women, watch what God does when he's standing in front of one. So there's a woman, she's been bleeding for 12 years. Under the law, that made her unclean. All right? Anything she touched was unclean with her.

12 years without being allowed to touch anyone, and she spent everything on doctors, and it got worse. You know, context of this, just a complete social outcast. You wouldn't be able to walk into a room. You wouldn't be able to go into a tavern. You know, going to market would be, would be difficult. No one would wanna sell to you because anything you touch, you're just void of all moral worth. All right? So she comes up behind Jesus in a crowd where she's not allowed to be and touches the very edge of his garment, and she's healed.

And he stops. So Jesus stops in front of everyone. He won't let it stay a secret. He asks who touched him until she comes forward shaking and tells the whole crowd, which means admitting she'd just made this teacher, who was a very well-respected teacher at this point, unclean. Put, put this teacher in the same cultural rejection place for touching him, and he looked at her, and he says, "Daughter, your faith has made you well. Go in peace." Now, I checked. He calls nobody else that, not one other person in all four records of his life.

He made her say it out loud so everyone there would know she was clean and that he called her daughter in front of all of them. 12 years untouchable, and the cure wasn't just the bleeding. It was being seen in public and being called family.

If you've ever been one of those people that everyone avoids, you know why she was shaking, and you know what that word would do. There's a woman in Samaria, wrong race, wrong religion, wrong reputation, five husbands. The man she's with now isn't one of them. She comes in the midday sun to get water out of a well. You know, no one would go and fetch water in the midday sun unless you really didn't wanna meet anyone. You know, you gotta remember this is the Middle East. It's hot, and he tells her who he is. You know? He says, "I am he. I am he." So the first person in all of scripture where Jesus tells someone actually who he is, he tells a woman, a rejected woman of the wrong race, wrong religion, wrong reputation, tells her who he is before he even tells his own 12 disciples, his 12 best friends, his followers, his brothers.

She leaves her water jar and runs into town, and scripture says that many believe because of what this woman said. I would love to know what she said. So then there's another woman. This woman was dragged into the temple, thrown on the floor, caught in adultery, they say in the act. Now, the law stated that both of them die. this woman dragged into the temple and thrown on the floor.

Where's the man? He's not there. He's never mentioned. They brought the woman and left the man, and the scripture just lets it sit there for you to notice. Jesus says to this group of men, this group of men, misogynistic men, he says, "Let he who is without blame among you, let him throw that stone at her first." One by one, beginning with the oldest, they left. The old men left first. they'd lived long enough to know, but one by one they left. Then Jesus dies.

Three days later, first human being to see him alive again when he was resurrected was a woman, and not just any woman, Mary Magdalene, a woman who had lived a tragic life, who Jesus had delivered and healed, and he said one word, her name, and then he sent her to go and tell my brothers, those 12 that we were chatting about earlier. The first message of his resurrection in human history was given to a woman to carry in a world where a woman's word didn't even count in court, and that's what God does when he's standing in front of women. Now I want to talk to the lads, because you've been sold something too, and I think deep down you know it isn't working.

You've been told dominance is masculinity, that a real man controls, and that her no is an opening offer. Here's what scripture actually says to husbands. Love your wife just as Christ loves his people and gave himself for them. Gave himself, not took, not controlled, gave and died for. Peter, one of the twelve, tells husbands to live with their wives with understanding, to honor them because they're heirs together, equal inheritors of the same thing.

He then says something I've never once heard a manosphere channel quote. Do it, or your prayers get blocked. And Jesus, his own disciples, were arguing about who was the greatest, the original high value conversation. He says, whoever wants to become great among you, let him be your servant. And then he gets down on his knees and he washed their feet.

The son of God on the floor with a towel. And here's the thing about the Tate version. It's the easy version. Anyone can dominate. children can dominate. It takes a man to serve. It takes a man to give up himself for someone. The real thing costs you.

That's exactly why they can't sell it to you. There's no course for it, no subscription. It's not a product. It's a cross. And it's the only version that will ever actually make women trust you. Most of you know what it is to feel ashamed after you've let someone see you, like really see you.

Put that next to God who got on the floor with a towel. One of those two is lying about what strength is. And to the girls, you've been told you're worth less after twenty-five, that your value is your face and it's a depreciating asset.

Three thousand years ago, the Bible said charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord shall be praised. Beauty is passing. The text called it something that runs out before even Instagram existed and puts the real thing right next to it.

You know the feeling of having to be perfect and never getting there. The oldest advice on the subject says it is a losing game and it always was. Does that make any sense? And the tradwife version, submission is a lifestyle. Go and read the chapter and the verse it comes from. The woman in a busy field, she plants a vineyard with her own earnings. She makes linen and sells it to merchants. She runs households. She teaches. She gives to the poor, laughs at the future.

And the word the Bible uses for her right at the start is the word for strength, the same word it uses for an army. That's not an influencer in a prairie dress. It's a woman running a business. Sarah? Sarah was ninety when God changed her name and told her who to become. Ninety. Anna was an old widow who prayed in the temple for decades.

She was in the right room at the exact moment the Messiah was carried in, and she knew what she was looking at. Naomi? Naomi lost her husband, both her sons, came home and said, "Don't call me Naomi anymore. Call me Mara," which means bitter, "because the Lord Almighty has dealt very bitterly with me."

And God let her say it. He didn't correct her. He didn't tell her to be positive. He let a grieving woman call him on it. And then the book ends with a baby in her lap and the women of the town telling her that her daughter-in-law is worth more to her than seven sons.

You're allowed to be honest with God. He can take it. I said at the start that all of this is a business model, insecurity sold to girls as beauty, to boys as masculinity, and the resentment between you is the engagement that pays for it.

So here's one thing, the whole picture of that is not for sale. Jesus sent his disciples out and said, "Freely receive, freely give." Free in, free out. There was a man who once tried to buy what God gives, offered money for it, and Peter, one of those twelve again, told him that money can go and perish with him. The good news of Jesus is the one thing that nobody can monetize because it's already paid for. And when it takes hold, here's what happens to the whole structure. All right? One of the writers, Paul, said that in Christ there's neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, neither male nor female.

You're all one, not erased. You're still a man. She's still a woman, but no longer ranked, no longer scored. He says in another place that we're members of one another. You belong to each other the way a hand belongs to your eye, not competitors, not a market. And it worked. The early church met in a woman's house. The first convert in Europe was a businesswoman named Lydia, and the church at Philippi started in her front room.

Paul names women as his coworkers, as people who had been imprisoned for the faith, and as the ones who carried his letters. And that's what it looks like when this is followed from the heart. The resentment economy stops. There's nothing left to sell because nobody's insecure, because everybody's seen. You've been told that the fix is a better you. This says the fix is being known.

Which one matches what's missing? So here's where I'll leave you. If you're a girl who's been shrinking yourself to fit a score, the God who found Hagar in the desert knows your name. He saw you before anyone did. And if you're a lad that's been told to control his strength, the strongest man who ever lived washed feet and died for people who didn't deserve it. That's the standard, and it's harder than anything Tate has ever asked of you, and the only thing that will ever make you the man you actually want to be. Jesus says, "Come to me all who labor and are heavy laden.

I will give you rest." That's him to you, not to church people, to the tired ones. Don't take my word for it. Go and read it. Genesis sixteen, John four, John eight. Read what he did when he stood in front of women and decide for yourself, and then talk to him in your own words.

You don't need the right words. Hagar didn't have them. She just looked up and said what she saw. He sees you.